For some reasons  as an adult we should stop watch cartoon, anime and toys because that habit make us look more childish to some people. Other people  opinions should not become the wall for  our hobbies  because some of us have good memories while we growing up and life lesson through the habits and what make us now. Like example doreamon ,naruto , power rangers, digimon, crayon shin chan, and many mores. Even though all this cartoons , anime are for the kid but it not limiting the grown up to enjoy it also.  Here some example that our childhood anime and cartoon that taught us life lessons.

For my opinions, we should  not only enjoy the anime and cartoon because of the plot or the storyline  but for their great positive lesson  that we can learn through out of it. 

The reason why  I decided to write this is due to a challenge issued by  my fellow batchmate , Karman-Hey . The challenge was if he published his love-life  story in this blog , I will too . He accepted the challenge , now it’s my turn , for a gentleman will never shy away from a challenge issued by  another gentleman .

For a while , in this batch , and compared to everyone who I have met , I was the only one who managed to stick in a relationship the longest , 7-8 years ( depends on how people calculate it) . From 12 years old boy , to 19 years old  seafarer , sailing through the East China Sea . It all started when the second in term of good-looks ranking girl spilled out that she have a crush on me ever since we were 11 years old . Well , as a guy who don’t really excel in term of looks , I just jumped to the opportunity and decided to be with her . At  first , it was just purely on pride , the feeling wasn’t really there . Imagine , finally being able to be called a boyfriend to one of the most beautiful girl in my primary school . I was proud as hell .

Untill I was 19 years , we have gone through a lot .From being with her due to looks , I fall in love with her as a whole . I fall in love with her personality , her quirks , her imperfections  And she changed me , a lot . My father raised me to be someone who will never show weakness , be it through shedding  tears , or through pouring my heart to someone else . He taught me that by being alone , by not showing any sign of weakness , by bearing the whole sadness and pain by myself without sharing the burden to anyone , that is what it takes to be respected , to be seen strong by everyone . By being strong , no one can step on me , or use me . That’s how I grew up , without sharing any of my secret or stories to anyone , even my closest friends . But she managed to persuade me to share with her my secrets and dreams . She provide a safe place for me to cry . She pushed me to be someone better . She was my dream , my ambition . Every layout of my future , my career , my financial plan , my future home , everything was planned with her inside it . She was the pillar of everything  that I have planned .

Everything changes . Maybe its due to my temper and jealousy . Maybe its due to my obsession with promises . Maybe she’ve found someone better than me . But whatever the reason was , we broke up when I was onboard a ship . She called , and decided to end our relationship , without any solid reason . It was a huge blow to me , and I’ve never really recovered . I’ve tried my best to remain friends , contacting her once in a while , even accompanied her when she flew to Russia to further her studies . But I’ve stop any form of contact with her by the end of last year when I raise to myself ,  Why am I the one who felt the pain ? Why I’m the one who have to go through all the dreams when I closed my eyes ? She broke up with me twice before , and in both occasions was through phone call . And when she asked to resume back our relationship , I foolishly accept it , without any question . I didn’t ask for any explanation  , nor did I push her away . I accepted her even when she hurt me . I accepted her even when she didn’t have the guts to meet me face to face to break up . I pretend like it never happened and we moved on , with promises from her that she will never ever do it again , and yet here I am , writing these blog . Yes , my temper and jealousy was bad , but does it ever occur to her that I would have never hurt her intentionally ? And I was extremely surprised how she overlook the fact I forgave her , and even act like she never did broke up with me TWICE !!!!!!  I forgave  her , while my friends keep telling me it’s a huge mistake . I accept her even when they say she’ll do it again . I shrug it off , for I believe in your promises . She left me when I was alone onboard , with nowhere else to go . The period where I needed her the most , she left me . My studies stopped and I was living like an empty shell onboard . Luckily my chief officer understood my situation and he let me move at my own pace . Everyone onboard helped me to regain my composure and I managed to pull it together after 3 months .

But with all the anger , the hatred , the anguish  , the feeling of being lied to again and again , it was never the reason why I stop contacting her . It was due to my inability to move on . I know for a fact that if she come back , I would have accept her unconditionally . I need to forget her . I need to cut off every memory of her just so that I can lead a happy life . It’s a and painful decision , but its nothing compared to when I listen to her story , knowing the fact she’s no longer  mine . Its nothing compared to the pain of drifting to sleep , and dreaming of her very now and then . You once said to me that sleep is a form of escape , but how can it be if every time I sleep , I met you . I stop any form of contact with her and her family not due to anger or hate , but its for me to find peace and happiness for myself .

To everyone else who’s in a relationship , my advice is treat her with respect . Love them , and never breached their trust in you . But always be prepared for the worst , and never give them everything  yet . If you do , pray that you are their soulmate . For when they decided to leave , you might never be able to pull yourself together again .

To Karman , bro I wish for the best for you . I hope she’s the one , and I hope she’s not the same as all the girls out there . We seafarer are strong and loyal , and due to that , I have no question on your ability to remain loyal to her . But the danger are never on ship , my friend . The danger , is on land .

*Challenger done.

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken.Nobody says it is going to be easy . the extra distance makes many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest, being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship.Long distance relationship may be tough but it has its own surprises too. To keep your love alive and strong,

1. Have a goal in mind.

“What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What about the future?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourselves. The truth is, no couple can be in a long distance relationship for forever. Eventually we all need to settle down.So make a plan with each other. Do up a timeline, marking down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal. It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same timezone, both of you are still working together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.

2. Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.

Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day .This is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happening, however mundane some of the things may seem. To up the game, send each other pictures from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.

  3. Know each other’s schedules.

It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free, so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Know the small and big events that are taking place or will take place in each other’s life e.g. college mid-terms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews and etc. This is especially essential when the both of you are living in different time zones.

4. Stay honest with each other.

Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. it’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.

You need to be constantly injecting positive energy into the long distance relationship to keep it alive. Yes, the waiting can be painful and you can sometimes feel lonesome but you need to remind yourself that the fruits at the end will be sweet as heaven. One good trick to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be thankful that you have someone to love . someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things, like the hand-made letter that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each other’s health and safety.

 During the last weekends I went to kuala Lumpur to meet with my family.I was very happy because such very long time I not meet with my beloved family.We already decided to go for family trip.The place that we choose to go was AQUARIA KLCC.The reason why we went there because this is  my father and my mother dream’s to walk around Kuala Lumpur.

On Saturday our journey began.First we plan to go there by car but as my father wish he want to ride the LRT so we follow him.it take around 10 minutes from Setiawangsa to reach at the KLCC using the LRT.after that we went to AQAURIA. I was very surprised because there was a lot of people there. I taked about an hour for me to buy the ticket.For your information the price for the ticket was for an adult RM40 chid RM30 children below 3 years old is free.

 When we going inside there it was very exciting because  this our first experienced  to walk underwater. They also provided services for taking pictures.After about one hour and half we were inside we decided to go for the next place which was GOING FOR LUNCH !!!!!!!!!. We asked our mother what she want to eat.Without waiting she just said PIZZA HUT.So we went there for lunch.

 Around 1500hours our journey for that day reach to the end.for me that is not important where we go the most important things in our life is when we see our family is happy and stay together.Since I have 9 siblings the chances to gather all my family is very difficult.so This is one of the oppurtunity we take to stay together as one family.i love my family ..thanks you for reading my blog .